Hello, My Way Home readers! We’re Ellen and Aileen from Love and Lavender where we showcase gorgeous weddings, detailing the story of couples’ love and their big day, and beautiful DIY ideas for your own weddings! We’re so excited to be sharing Aileen’s wedding day with you all today!
Putting together a wedding can be nerve-wracking, because it’s a one-time event. Unlike decorating your house, where you can change things as you want, once your wedding is over, it’s over. When I was planning my wedding, I had such a hard time deciding on a color scheme or “theme.” Finally, I realized that as long as everything reflected Ben and I, instead of just copying some picture-perfect wedding from a magazine, that I’d be happy with it. We took a good look at the way we like to live, dress, and our style in general. Because of this, we decided not to have fancy bridesmaid dresses, expensive floral centerpieces, or a huge five-tier wedding cake. We’re not really that fancy of people, so why would we pretend to be on our wedding day?
Staying true to our personal style really helped us to stay in our budget, and better yet, because we truly liked everything we used in our wedding, we kept most of it and found a way to work it into our decor in our new home. The mason jars that held our flowers, the vintage suitcase the programs were in, and the paper pinwheels I made–all of these found their way into our home somehow.
When planning your wedding, of course it’s fun to look at magazines and blogs to get inspiration–my sister-in-law and I run the wedding blog Love & Lavender, and I looked at blogs daily for ideas. But remember, it’s not about emulating someone else’s wedding, it’s about making a day that reflects you and your hubby-to-be! So take a good look at what you already like and own. Chances are, you have some beautiful things that you can incorporate into your wedding decor–your collection of globes, your grandma’s china teacups you can fill with flowers, or maybe a beautiful chandelier you can hang from the trees. When you do decide to make or buy something, consider if you can keep and use it afterward. Maybe you’ll make some sweet bunting that you’ll later hang in your kitchen. Maybe you’ll have a spread of cakes on vintage cakestands that will later find a home in your hutch.
Of course, it’s not to say that everything you use in your wedding has to be used in your home afterward. But as you’re buying things, this can be something helpful to consider–”Is this something I would like to keep after the big day?” That way, you stay true to your style, end up spending less money, and will have a wedding that truly reflects you! I love the way my wedding turned out and I’m so glad I didn’t just pick a trendy color scheme or do something just because that’s “what people do” for weddings.
-Aileen & Ellen